I went absolutely mental, shouting, I did not consent to either and "luckily" they didn't touch me.
They said take her home to die. They said terminate him.
It was the most horrendous experience ever and now I’m pregnant with number 4, I will never birth in a hospital again.
After being laughed at and told I wouldn’t be birthing that night to being checked , 5/6cm & blue lighted to a consultant led ward, strapped to a monitor and placed on a bed within the hour, the midwife spent the rest of the time with her back to me doing paper work.
At an out of hours appointment because of some retained placenta tissue, after an extremely traumatic birth, I was examined with a speculum.
Fast forward to once we had our baby a few hours later they took him "for a quick check" and never came back, when we asked where he was we was told he is now staying in the special baby unit, we quickly asked to be shown where he was!
I wanted a vaginal birth after caesarean, I was predicted a big baby, they said they couldn't be wrong - they were.
Once signed off there and having a check in back at my booking hospital towards the end of my pregnancy the appointment was all near done and dusted, she closed my notes and realised the front said home birth. She scoffed, I confirmed I would be having a home birth. She reopened my notes.
Anything that blows the lid open on this whole unsavoury business is a good thing and They Said To Me is making an important contribution. I hope more and more comments will be tagged to the service that spawned them so that services can be truly named and shamed. This should be the next #metoo movement and They Said To Me is on the front line calling the battle cry!