Milk and Motherhood Great post from Milk and Motherhood.
She's much more eloquent than me.
My youngest - bearing in mind I triandem fed - fed for 18 hours a day - all the time.
What I would like to say to whoever designed that poster is "please fuck the fuck off, and then do it again and take your guilt tripping and shaming attitude with you". ... See more
So tell me: For how many hours of every day should we stare adoringly at our babies in order to be deemed a 'good mother'?
If my baby feeds 10 times a day for 45-60minutes, must I gaze at him the entire time to ensure that he develops appropriately? What about my neighbour, whose baby feeds 6 times a day for 4 minutes per side -- should SHE watch her baby lovingly for that entire time?
When I have no family here and no strong friendships, but a Facebook group of new mothers reduces my anxiety and isolation, should I not? For those hours upon hours upon hours, every day, every week, every month, should I just stare at my baby?
What about my neighbour, whose huge Italian family is constantly visiting, chatting and making eye contact with the mother herself, while she is feeding -- is this wrong? Should she ensure that, no, she only stares at her baby?
This is shaming and guilt-inducing and I friggin HATE it. This was created by someone who did not have a baby during the era of isolation and smart phones. You can't tell me that mothers beforehand did this. They read books, read trashy magazines, did crosswords, were on the phone to their friend, watched Days of our Lives.
Secondly, hands up how many of you are reading this while currently feeding your baby, have learnt something valuable about breastfeeding via your phones at any point, and are perhaps finding solice, community, connection and information while doing so?!
(Photo from @dr_cottrella) ... See more
